Today is a bad day. I hate days like today, hate feeling vulnerable, hate frustrations. I just wanna end the day early, tomorrow will be better.

By right, we shouldn't care about what others think about us. Who's in control of your life? Who do you live for?

Majority of us, it’s other people – society, colleagues, friends, family. We got used to this way of operating when we were very young. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us. We didn’t want to be singled out by the crowd for being different because this wasn’t such a nice feeling. We learned this way of being so well that, as adults, we continue – mostly through mutual peer pressure – to keep each other in check.

It works both ways. First, we are afraid of disapproval. Am I dressed right? Will people laugh at my china accent? Will I look stupid? Will I make a mistake? When we feel that others think badly of us, it makes us feel bad and so we try to avoid this.

Second, we all want to feel important and so we crave the positive attention of others. When people stroke our ego and tell us how wonderful we are, it makes us feel good. We crave it like a drug.

You cannot control what other people think. People have their own agenda, they come with their own baggage and, in the end, they’re more interested in themselves than in you. If we try to live by the opinions of others, we will build our life on sinking sand. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and people change their opinions all the time. The person who tries to please everyone will only end up getting exhausted and probably pleasing no one in the process.

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – Oscar Wilde

In the end,

The truth is that it’s all an illusion anyway.